Health & Wellbeing, Precious Moments, Tips, Wellbeing

10 Ways to improve my mental wellbeing – World mental health day. 2017

Today is world mental health day.

Mental health can affect anyone. From the young to the old! It can come in many different forms, anxiety, postnatal depression, post-traumatic stress, bipolar, schizophrenia and more.

Sometimes symptoms can be helped by doing little things each day to boost your mood. Sometime you may need a little more help from therapy or medication.

If you or anyone you know seems to be suffering from mental illness please contact your health provider. Do not sit in silence. Seek help!

I’ve suffered on and off myself with depression and anxiety since I was young.

Here are 10 ways I help myself if I feel my mood dipping or my anxiety creeping in!

  1. Eating healthy. Eating a healthy diet gives you essential nutrients that can, in turn, make your body produce chemicals that improve mood.
  2. Art. It has been proved that art & craft has beneficial impacts on your mental health. Activities such as painting, knitting, pottery where you can immerse yourself in the activity is a bit like being in a meditative state.
  3. Exercise. We all know by now that exercise is an essential part of everyday life that we should be participating in. However, still, not enough people are doing the recommended amount per week. However, even just a 10 min brisk walk outside can improve your mood. The vitamin D from the sun even in a winter, the fresh air into your lungs and the fact that you are moving creates chemicals that boost mood.
  4. Yoga. I’ve put this separate to exercise just because it encompasses more than just exercise. The stretching, the controlled breathing and the movement all help with getting you on the right track to a positive wellbeing.
  5. Gratitude lists.  we did start writing 3 things we were grateful for each day and share it between myself hubby and stepson, lately though we haven’t been doing it. You could put them in a journal, or write each one on a piece of paper and put it in a jar.
  6. Declutter – A cluttered home creates a cluttered mind. If there are things piling up around you it doesn’t create a calm space for your mind to relax!
  7. Be in the moment – Take a moment to be here and now. use your senses to really feel present. smell the coffee your drinking, taste your lunch rather than just gulping it down out of necessity, get down and play with your kids the way they do!
  8. Let it out – If you need to cry, cry – stick on a weepy movie grab some tissues and have a good sob!
  9. Talk – Grab a cuppa with a friend and tell them how your feeling, or seek out a counsellor who will not pass judgement and tell them whats bothering you. Sometimes when you talk about things they don’t seem as bad as they did in your head.
  10. Get enough sleep – Sleep is so important for our mental state of mind! We should aim for 7 -8 hours a night. Sleep gives our brains time to process information that it has been given through the day. sleeping can help aid recovery of traumatic events.

 

Nina

Planning, Staycation, Tips, Travel

Half Term Bucket List

So the kids are off again next week. One whole week off. so I need to find some way to entertain them for the 5 days.

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I’m lone parenting too for the first few days as Hubby is working away!

  • Soft Play – I keep seeing vlogs of a fab soft play chain! I have found our nearest one and I am planning a trip there one day in the week.
  • Craft Day – I still haven’t gone through the Squiggle Dot Squeeze box with the kids So I’m planning a day to get crafty with the kids.
  • Pottery Painting – A local company are holding a Halloween Event with pottery painting and Fancy Dress competition So we are heading to this!
  • Movie Night – Im planning a movie night for me and the kids with popcorn using our new popcorn machine. Nachos, Pizza and milkshakes.
  • Garden Centre Visit – When my nan was alive we used to have trips to all the garden centres around us looking at the christmas displays and inevitably coming home with bags of stuff that i dint really need!
  • Baking – Id like to get in the kitchen with the kids this half term, things im thinking of include carrot cake, Chocolate apples, pizza whirls and more.
  • Halloween Party – So this year we are hosting a halloween party. Hopefully the weather will be good and we can have a BBQ and mingle outside.

So thats my plan for the week!

I am hoping to upload a vlog each day around 8pm of what we get up to each day I would love you to come join me on youtube!

Do you have plans for the week ahead?

Here is a video i did a while back with a few tips for holidays

 

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Screen Free Weekends, Tips, Wellbeing

Screen Free Weekend – Splash Park Fun #Linky

Good morning everyone.
It’s Monday. And time for Screen Free Linky
So this weekend was not so good in the giving up screens. Hubby went easy Saturday and I like to check his journey.
On Sunday morning the kids woke and wanted their tablets. So while I looked up somewhere to go for the day they watched YouTube!
After we had got up and dressed however the screens went off. We had breakfast and spent the day at the park.

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I did check on hubby via Text message but for the most of the day we were screen free.
In the evening we had dinner at Nanny’s and then home to bed. Where we watched a little tv. And after the kids had gone to sleep I txt chatted with Hubby.
So not a total fail. However. I vow to do better in the coming weeks!
Watch this space

 

Here are a few reasons why screen free time is important.

  • Screen time can be linked to childhood obesity. – The more time you spend online the less time you spend outside playing and exercising.
  • Screens at bedtime and in the couple of hours before bed has been proven to disrupt sleep patterns. Not just in children bug in adults too.
  • Childhood Psychological problems such as emotional issues, hyperactivity and social skills are more likely to occur in those who have more than 2 hours screen time a day.
  • If you are immersed in screen life you are almost cutting yourself off from “real life. – living in the moment.
  • More Screen time means less time connecting with people in the real world.

 

So with these reasons in mind I will try harder next week.
How did you get on?
Have you blogged about it?
Leave your Linky here.

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So linky rules
Each Monday evening I will post how we were screen free over the weekend

  • Linky will be live from Monday evening to Friday morning.
  • Posts should be your own work.
  • Only one post per person please.
  • It’s only fair that we share the linky love by commenting on at least two other posts.
  • I will feature one blogger each week in my post so unplug those cables & let’s have some screen free time.

Share your posts on Twitter or Instagram using the #screenfreeweekends @readyforacuppa I will try to comment & retweet each one

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Health & Wellbeing, Parenting 101, Tips

How do I explain death to my 4 year olds?

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In the four years my children have been alive a number special people in our lives have died. The Twins had been a little young to know whats happening. When I lost my Nan my twins were only two. They will have noticed she wasn’t here anymore however they don’t really remember her! 

A couple of days ago however the next door neighbour of my nan (who I have known since they both moved there about 30 years ago ) died – She had been having a few health issues over the past year but had such a positive outlook! She was in her 90s and so much more agile than my nan was at 90!

As I came off the phone to my mum I realised I was crying and J & M were looking at me!

I tried to explain but I don’t think they understood!

I tried the well “Mrs G” won’t be here anymore she has gone to be with my nanny somewhere in the stars!

Can we see her they asked! – I told them that we wouldn’t be able to see her again now.

I didn’t know what to say –  I think many of us are inept at dealing with death. I was talking to someone the other day who said I the olden days death was just what happened. In fact in times of poverty it was probably a bit of a relief as sick couldn’t work so therefore were a burden!  These times we as family dealt with the funeral ourselves.

Nowadays that job is usually  given to a funeral home so we only ever talk  about death through closed doors!

I am one of those inept people – I don’t deal with death very well and therefore am a little scared of my own mortality or selfishly the mortality of people around me (what will I feel when there gone?)

So with all this in mind I want to do the right thing by my two. I don’t want them to grow up with this fear that I have and that my dad had that death is something to fear so much so that it interferes with living!

Googling how to talk to a preschooler about death I came up with many don’ts

  • Don’t tell them that the person has gone to sleep – This may cause the child to not want to go to sleep
  • Don’t tell them the person has gone away – Leaving the child may then be an issue as they may think you have “gone away”
  • Don’t tell them the person has been so good that jesus wanted them – The child might start playing up so they don’t get chosen
  • Don’t tell the child the person is happy now they have gone – the child might question why the person is so happy when everyone around them is sad!

So what do I say instead?

What do I say to my 4 year olds about where this person who was a part of our lives is now?

How do explain death to them?

If you have any words of wisdom please leave in the comments below or message me on facebook.

Thanks

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Days Out, Planning, Tips, Travel, Travel with Twins

Traveling with Twins – Surviving the Airport. My Top Tips!

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I’m Currently at 32 thousand feet M has control of my IWatch and J is sat watching Miles on his Electronic Nanny.

 

We left home at 7am and its now 2.30 in the afternoon.

It has been a long day already and we don’t land until after 4pm.

We are not new to traveling however each time we learn a little more about the best way to reduce the stress on our travels.

  1. Arrive in good time – There is nothing worse than arriving late and in a panic. Plan your trip – Are there road works? Do you have enough petrol? Fill up the day before if you want that extra 10 mins in bed!
  2. Bring activities for the little ones! – Our twins are 4 and I let them pack their hand luggage themselves. I do advise checking it before you get to the airport however as liquids and sharp objects are frowned upon through security. I also make sure they have their favorite comfort be that a teddy, a dummy for smaller ones or a blanket.
  3. Charge those Electronic nannies –We were early for our check in this morning (I know Un heard of!) J & M were able to

    entertain themselves with their Tablets & toys.

  4. Toilet stops – While Hubby cued with the suitcases I took J & M off to the toilet even if they say they don’t need it right then I tend to bribe them with a sticker if it means I’m not halfway through security with “mummy I need a wee, Mummy I’m gonna wee, Mummy I’ve wee’d” in my ear.
  5. Wheel your own! – Last time we were away I let My two pick their own wheeled cabin bags. This way they are more likely to carry their own stuff! – It makes them feel grown up and save me or Daddy carrying a thousand bags!SAMSUNG CSC
  6. Remove shoes, coats, etc. – when going through security You need to remove shoes if they have a substantial sole or if your kids are like mine and they have lights in their shoes they obviously have a battery in so they will need to come off too.
  7. Fold pushchairs- Babies should be removed from pushchairs and pushchairs folded and put through the scanner. This cam mean you need to empty it of blankets toys etc.– Yes you can take them to the aircraft door on most flights check your airline if unsure!
  8. Book the lounge. – It’s not as crowded there is complementry WiFi and the food and drinks are included. Sometimes you can get a good deal on the lounge if you are booking car parking – Ours came with the price of the car park this time round.
  9. Snacks – I put a couple of snacks in our hand luggage. airport prices are not cheap! SAMSUNG CSC
  10. Did I mention Toilet stops?
  11. Don’t rush to the gate – Normally by the time you’re on your way to the gate you have already been given your seat number so why rush. Those that board first are on the plane longer on the ground meaning more chance your little ones are going to get board or need a wee!

 

 

Right Seatbelt lights on M is now asleep as is daddy and J is not far behind – Come on kiddos were landing.

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Health & Wellbeing, Tips, Wellbeing

Mummy Worries!

Last week I took the children for their first swimming lesson at the local swimming pool.

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I had a lot of anxiety sat behind a window watching them fool around in the water. I swim, I love swimming and I know they need to learn but it doesn’t stop me worrying!

The teacher gets in the water with them. they seemed to enjoy their lesson I think it helped that a school friend of theirs was there too.  Talking to the school friends mum helped take my mind off of my anxiety.

I know that in the long run I will feel better knowing they can swim and get out of difficulty especially as we holiday on a small island and love our beach days.

I think the only thing we can do is teach our children how to respond to difficult situations and try to teach ourselves too!

Swimming is just one of the things I worry about as a mum.

Sat behind the window I could feel my heart leap every time they looked like they were falling. But do you know what they stayed upright.

I’m sure I’m never going to stop worrying about them and even if I get over the swimming worry there will be something else to worry about!

My anxiety doesn’t just stop at the children’s wellbeing I also worry about my own health! 

My heart often leaps when I find a new symptom and then I worry I worry its something worse than it is. I worry that if I go to the Drs I will be wasting their time! 

I think I’ve always had a little bit of anxiety, however when my children came it became more apparent. The responsibility of looking after them lies solely with me. Ok my husband has a responsibility too but I think as mothers we are the first call when things go wrong.

I have found some ways of coping with my anxiety and not letting it get me too down but sometime there is a blip! 

To give my self a reminder that I need to live in the moment is through another blog I created Living In The Here and Now – It’s somewhere I post when I find something useful or need a reminder of how to not get caught in the dips! 

 

Thanks for listening

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Staycation, Tips, Travel, Wellbeing

Surviving the Spring Holidays – Staycation

So today is the first day of our Half Term Holidays and while friends of mine are holidaying with Mickey 😦 and fellow bloggers are talking about holidays to my paradise Isle, I am at home.

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A staycation of sorts.

I have a few plans but they are not set in stone!

So here is what I need to do for less stress

  • Get lots of healthy snacks ready  – When the ‘mummmmmmyyyy im hunnnngery” whines start I will be ready!
  • Craft packs – When it inevitably starts raining I need to make sure I have activities on hand for the “I’m bored” moments
  • Meal Plan – If I create a meal plan it will take the stress out of thinking up dinner ideas.
  • Grab & Go Basket – In here will be suncream, hats, Sunglasses and bottles of water.
  • Book a Sitter  (Nanny) – So that I can have a little break of my own. Probably for  a swim.
  • Outfits laid out – to take the stress out of mornings Im going to lay out each days outfit the night before.
  • Brief Plan of each day – So I said i have lots of ideas for the week and if i write down a plan for the week it means I’m going to actually do things and not think oh well not today.

Monday – Butterfly Zoo

Tuesday – Local Peppa Pig Event with picnic

Wednesday – Trip to the seaside

Thursday – Camp Out In the Garden (Wether Permitting)

Friday – Mummy’s swim day – SoftPlay / Park day

I will report back next week as to how my week went!

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Good luck all the mums out there heading towards half term stress.

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Tips, Wellbeing

Loneliness as a parent. Making Friends  

You know that feeling of being lonely in a room full of people.

Yeh that.

I am currently sat in soft play with my children happily off making friends.

Don’t get me wrong I’ve a great group of friends. But wouldn’t it be nice to have the inhabitation’s of a child again. And go off exploring & making friends.

I’m mostly fine taking my children to places on my own,  But sometimes just sometimes I need another adult human to talk to.

Someone who isn’t going to demand juice and need me to take them to the toilet.

My friends have helped me through some tough times and Im hope I have them!

I’m sure there will be more tough times in our lives too but at least we will have each other for support.

 

How do mummies / Daddies make friends?

Well i met mine through a Sure Start centre – I joined every session especially the craft sessions.

One craft group turned more into a kind of therapy session I ended up bonding with a couple of other mummies who are now two of my best friends!

We eventually introduced our husbands who also now are good friends.

We often spend time together as a group!

  • Look up baby/ toddler groups

Get out there you could try a story session at a library, a baby group at your local church or local toddler coffee mornings –

When you have found them

  • Get out there.

Your not going to meet anyone sat at home! You need to take those first steps. I know how hard it is to get out of the door with a little one, I have twins but it helped me to have somewhere to go.

Well done you have taken your first step.

  • Strike up a conversation or join one thats already happening if its not too personal and is relevant.

So you get there and there are several parents milling around you put your little one down to play and grab your cuppa, there are a couple of ladies talking about how their little one woke them,   did you have a bad night too?  Could you offer advise or just be a listening ear?

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  • School age children? – Check out school coffee mornings  Again you need to strike up a conversation What about asking a little more about the summer fair, The school trip, anything that is relevant to you and your child!

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  • Volunteer – Often there are openings for volunteers on Parent Fundraising Groups so while the children are at school you could even run the coffee mornings!
  • There are sites out there that you can connect with other parents. In forums and chat rooms – Please remember safety first when connecting with people online Here are a couple I know about :

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I hope you have found these tips useful.

Now what are you waiting for?

Get out there it could be one of the best things you do!

 

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Thanks Gals for supporting me through some tough times!

Love ya! x

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