Friends, Parenting 101

Lone Parenting – Pros & Cons

So hubby has gone away to work again!

Every time he works away the week or two before his mood dips and my anxiety heightens.

So I’m on my own again! It’s only a week this time and I know there are some out there that are single parents all the time! There are some out there whose hubbys are away 6 month’s at a time!

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But pros and cons of being a lone parent!

 Pros

  • I can watch tv at all hours of the night! – Sometimes when I can’t sleep I like to listen to a sitcom like Miranda or not going out. but when hubby is fast asleep I don’t like to put tv on!
  • Snuggles in bed with the kids – Okay we have snuggles most nights but when it’s just us I love that they fall asleep snuggled up to me! we chat about our day and plan what we are doing tomorrow!
  • I tend to read more when hubby is away – I can grab a cuppa and a book and sit and read once the kids have gone to sleep.
  • There is more hot water – one less bath means more hot water for me to have a bath!
  • Less washing – Hubby goes though more clothes a week than the kids!

Cons

  • I feel very alone at night – once I’ve locked the door I know the only people I’m going to see is my kids and although I love them lots it’s no substitution for my hubby!
  • I tend to eat rubbish when hubby is away  – It’s no fun cooking meals for people who would rather have a happy meal!
  • Reassuring hugs & kisses – If I have a bad day when hubby is away There is no one to hug away the bad feelings of the day!
  • I don’t really sleep very well when hubby is away – Despite sometimes having sleepless nights anyway, when hubby is away he tends to be in a different time zone and somehow I adopt that time zone too!
  • My anxiety goes through the roof when hubby is way – My brain is on over drive with what ifs.
  • There is no-one else to put the kids in bed – If the kids fall asleep not in bed I have to be the one to carry them to bed!
  • I feel sad that hubby is missing things – The kids do something that makes me proud, or we make a memory together , Hubby is missing them.

I miss him when he is away!

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I will get through the week, I will miss him then he will be back and I will be moaning about him again within days!

 

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Days Out, Parenting 101, Planning, Travel, Travel with Twins

Traveling with Twins – In Flight.

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Today I am back with another Traveling with Twins post for you following on from my at the airport this how to make sure your flight goes smoothly.

Our twins first flight was just before their first birthday since then we have been lucky enough to travel at least twice a year.

I know sitting in a confined tin can with any amount of children can seem like a daunting prospect but it doesn’t have to be.

I have even managed to take J & M on my own on a couple of occasions,

So here is what I do to try and beat the cabin fever.

Toileting

  • Make sure you use the toilet before boarding the plane. – even if they insist they don’t need it I still make my two try you could be a long time with seat belts on!
  • Sometimes if the kids are desperate the cabin crew will let you use the toilet before take off!
  • Make sure you have a spare set of clothes just incase they can’t hold it in.
  • Now I’ve been in a situation where I need the loo and I have two children with me – My advice is If they are happy in their seat leave them. They can’t go anywhere. And there isn’t a lot they can damage in their seat.
  • Otherwise you could take them up to the toilet with you however there isn’t a lot of room for three in those toilets. – Cabin crew may talk to your little ones while you go to the loo. All you have to do is ask.

Activities

  • We pack the electronic nanny with us in our hand luggage but remember you will need them in flight mode so download what you can beforehand.
  • Make sure you have kid’s headphones – you don’t want to be on a 4 & half hour flight with peppa pig on a loop in your ear! Kids headphone will often have limited volume too so no need to worry about little ears being damaged
  • Pack a new thing – a magazine, small toy, coloring book. – It doesn’t have to be expensive.
  • I once packed a lucky bag – The excitement of something new and not knowing what is in the bag was enough to keep them busy for a while!

 Reverse the role.

  • Kids love a bit of responsibility I tell mine to let me know when the seatbelt sign is off. This doesn’t always work they still ask for the tray table down or their bag but I get them to keep an eye on the light and tell me when its gone off!
  • While the cabin crew are doing their safety spiel I get the kids to watch if they are old enough and then let me know what to do with life jacket, and how to put on my seatbelt!

I’m Hungry

  • So there is often a trolley of snacks up and down the aisle, on our journey of 4.5 hrs we see the snack bar three times! It can cost a small fortune.
  • Pack some snacks in the kids hang luggage – fruit, popcorn, juice, crisps, even a sandwich!
  • Chose one thing off the menu and don’t veer off.
  • If you only have a short trip eat before you travel.

Getting off

Wait until the end – If you get out of your seat first your going to be holding people up behind you and if you have more than one child your more likely to get split up due to everyone trying to rush off

Take off  & Landing

  • To prevent ears popping and hurting little ones make sure they have some sweets or a drink they can have while taking off and landing
  • For babies I recommend their dummy or feeding them the sucking will relies the pressure in the ears and sooth them during this time.SAMSUNG CSC

So they are my tips for the flight, can you think of any more?

If you have a great tip leave a comment below and don’t forget to follow me on bloglovin of wordpress for more Traveling with twins.

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Health & Wellbeing, Parenting 101, Tips

How do I explain death to my 4 year olds?

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In the four years my children have been alive a number special people in our lives have died. The Twins had been a little young to know whats happening. When I lost my Nan my twins were only two. They will have noticed she wasn’t here anymore however they don’t really remember her! 

A couple of days ago however the next door neighbour of my nan (who I have known since they both moved there about 30 years ago ) died – She had been having a few health issues over the past year but had such a positive outlook! She was in her 90s and so much more agile than my nan was at 90!

As I came off the phone to my mum I realised I was crying and J & M were looking at me!

I tried to explain but I don’t think they understood!

I tried the well “Mrs G” won’t be here anymore she has gone to be with my nanny somewhere in the stars!

Can we see her they asked! – I told them that we wouldn’t be able to see her again now.

I didn’t know what to say –  I think many of us are inept at dealing with death. I was talking to someone the other day who said I the olden days death was just what happened. In fact in times of poverty it was probably a bit of a relief as sick couldn’t work so therefore were a burden!  These times we as family dealt with the funeral ourselves.

Nowadays that job is usually  given to a funeral home so we only ever talk  about death through closed doors!

I am one of those inept people – I don’t deal with death very well and therefore am a little scared of my own mortality or selfishly the mortality of people around me (what will I feel when there gone?)

So with all this in mind I want to do the right thing by my two. I don’t want them to grow up with this fear that I have and that my dad had that death is something to fear so much so that it interferes with living!

Googling how to talk to a preschooler about death I came up with many don’ts

  • Don’t tell them that the person has gone to sleep – This may cause the child to not want to go to sleep
  • Don’t tell them the person has gone away – Leaving the child may then be an issue as they may think you have “gone away”
  • Don’t tell them the person has been so good that jesus wanted them – The child might start playing up so they don’t get chosen
  • Don’t tell the child the person is happy now they have gone – the child might question why the person is so happy when everyone around them is sad!

So what do I say instead?

What do I say to my 4 year olds about where this person who was a part of our lives is now?

How do explain death to them?

If you have any words of wisdom please leave in the comments below or message me on facebook.

Thanks

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Parenting 101, Travel, Wicked Wednesday

Holiday’s who’d have em!

So Yesterday we landed in our favourite place,

we got our hire car and let ourselves into our home for the next 10 nights!

We unloaded th car headed to the supermarket then had a walk to the beach for a late dinner.

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This one moaned,

He whined that we weren’t having pizza, he moaned that the machine that sells bouncy balls wasn’t there anymore, He sobbed loudly that his sausage was cut up!

You know you brood are loud when you haven’t even finished eating and the waitress brings the bill!

We get home and hubby take a shower, while he is getting into his pj’s M  calls from the toilet “Mummy I’ve had a poo!” We all know what that means , off I go to wipe the bum of said child when whooops,  aghhhhh. hubby left the bathroom floor so wet that one leg went in front of me and I ended up doing the splits in not a very dignified manner. I have to have a glass of wine to make myself feel better!

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Tuesday is a new day and after not much sleep we head outta the door to the park then to soft play as it’s too hot and windy to be outdoors.

Soft play ends and J loses the ability to put on his own shoes!

So we are off again with the whiney “I want you do it!”

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Hopefully we wont have this much drama all of or holiday.otherwise I will need another one without the kids to recover.

Oh wait I have a camping trip booked with the girlies.

So when the whiney, whingy, Crying doesn’t stop I must repeat to myself “I’m getting a weekend off soon!”

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Joining in with Brummy Mummy Of 2’s Wicked Wednesday

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