It’s our turn! 

Last week J came bouncing out of school with the dreaded class bear!
If you don’t know about the class bear let me explain.

The class bear “Rainbow Bear” as ours is called is what we used to call the class pet. You know a hamster or rabbit you had to look after & keep alive for the weekend. Nowadays though it’s a non living pet. You take home the bear on Friday, then on Monday morning (when you have to remember a dozen other things like PE kit, snack money, book bag)  you take back the bear.

So all the children in school get a turn with the bear – The ones you don’t want to follow that have been on a some fancy trip or done really exciting things. Those you don’t want to follow because well you know the bear isn’t able to have a bath between his sleepovers. :-/

Then there is the ones you don’t want to follow because the child has set a bar of writing in the book themselves.

This! This is the one I had to follow.

So J who hates writing decided on Sunday night he would write all of his entry!  (for this I’m very proud of him)

Yes I’m aware That we have now become the one you don’t want to follow.

On Sunday evening we spent an hour printing pics out for the bears diary and spelling out the words J wanted to write.

The words Friggin Bear came to mind a few times.

The bear has gone back to school for now but as J & M are twins in the same class I’m sure he will be back soon.

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She Went Into Labour

A friend went into labor today. Her waters broke at 4am and I was so exited for her and for myself. A new baby to play with!

I posted a while back how myself and my husband had decided that despite wanting a big family it would be best to concentrate on getting my wellbeing on track! Dealing with my mental health issues instead of thinking about having another baby.

But you see, I knew my friend bringing her baby into the world would have an impact on me and today when she went into labour, I had all those feels of not having a “real” birth. The feeling in the pit of my stomach that I had somehow missed out because I had a c section!

Don’t get me wrong I’m not saying having a c section is the easy way out.  I’m not judging anyone, this is just how I feel about my own birth story.

Today I cried. I cried that my friend had to go through another labour only to be wheeled to theatre for another c section. I cried with jealousy because she had gone into labour – something that I have never felt. I cried with relief that the baby was born. I cried because even though I said I want to concentrate on my wellbeing I still feel like I would like to try again!  I’m 36 my husband 47 in December we are not getting any younger. I feel like I’m just getting into the swing of things.

The sleepless nights, the crying, the green nappies and the projectile vomit are on my list of cons against another.

The instant love, the new baby smell, the watching a new little human develop, in a selfish way the attention you get when you’ve just had a baby! That. That’s why I’d want another.

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My instagram feed is full of babies at the moment and it’s only adding to my broodiness.

When I meet this baby I’m going to be a mess. I just know I’ll be back thinking what a good idea it would be to try again!!

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Sometimes I open my mouth and my Mother comes out!

My 4-year-old twins just looked at me like I had another head!

I heard myself say it!

OMG I’m turning into my mum

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No I don’t mean the hairs that I constantly have to pluck from my chin, or that I look in the mirror and see my mum (Shit I actually do?) Those lines at the corner of my eyes! Where did they come from?

Nowadays your monthly salon visits aren’t for having highlights or a bright colour they are a necessity – I mean it’s not just a myth, if you pluck a grey hair 2 more will grow…. I must have plucked hundreds!

Coupled with this, sometimes you look around as you hear your mum say something only it wasn’t her – It was you! You opened your mouth and your mum came out!

Blue Twin had a strop the other day about wanting pudding and gave me such a filthy look.

“Don’t look at me in that tone of voice” I said

I had to stop myself carrying on with “It’s smells a funny colour”

Then it hit me – It’s not just this phrase, there are loads of things I say to my kids that, even as they leave my mouth, I cringe that it’s my mother talking!

When they are whinging about something hurting just to get out of doing something – “But Mummmmy my (blank) hurrrrttttsss  – My reply “your bum will hurt in a min if you don’t (blank) “

Or what about?  “Because I said so!” Normally this in reply to a ‘why can’t I…’ question that you either are too tired to answer or don’t know why!

These are some more I remember my mum saying to me…

  • “If the wind changes you will stop like it”
  • “I want never gets”
  • “Are your legs broken? Well you can walk then!” – When wanting to be picked up!
  • “I’ll see” – Meaning nope no way not ever oh go on then!
  • In response to its not fair “no but it’s not raining”
  • “No I’m not going to sleep I’m just resting my eyes!”

I think I’ve already said all of these too.

Oh god!

Send the wine I think it’s too late for me I’ve already turned into my mum!

Run quick save yourselves

Have you turned into your Mum? What phrases do you say that your mum taught you?

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Memories Leak From My Eyes

Tonight I stood in the passageway between what used to be my Nan’s (now my mums) house and her neighbours. I thought about all the times I had played with a ball against the wall. And the times my Nan’s neighbour had come out and told me to stop banging on her wall.

 

 

It’s funny how memories catch us unawares.

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Both my Nan and her neighbour now gone.

I sometimes have moments like this. Things like a smell, a memorable building, or song can bring on these memories.

Sometimes we fear those moments but they are often because of good memories of a certain person. We have to acknowledge them, acknowledge that life moves on.

Memories, Even the ones that leak out of our eyes means we have lived.

We have to remember that nothing is forever but those memories are there because we have loved someone or something!

Remember when you are making memories with your children they last a lifetime. Make them good ones.

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What the WI Means To Me

As I am packing for my camping trip with the girls I get to thinking about the WI and what it means to me.

I, together with three other friends, joined our local WI in the May of 2015. We joined after seeing it advertised in the local newsletter. When we arrived that first night we were welcomed with open arms and we soon felt comfortable with the other ladies. We are classed among our WI as “The Young Un’s”

That first meeting we really didn’t know what to expect and when we had gone through the ‘business” of that month I think we were even more confused. The “business” is generally a run through of last month’s meeting minutes, the secretary reading out any correspondence she feels we may be interested in, she often finds things that she deems too boring to read out but leaves everything out on the table for us to read anyway. (She is not afraid to tell us what she thinks).

Then there is a speaker or workshop – This can range from a talk from a charity about guide dogs to belly dancing for all abilities.

We had only been members for a couple of months when we spotted an “unofficial WI camp” Tea & Tents – It was to be held at a campsite not far from where we live so we jumped ummed and ahed at the prospect of spending 2 nights away from the children.

The camp was great – a mixture of all things WI, along with activities that most members have probably never heard of, Craft activities, yoga, even activities on site like swimming in the lake and tomahawk throwing. There was also an afternoon tea provided, scones with clotted cream and jam with a nice mug of tea to wash it down.

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A year on from that, and I’m packing up for me second Tea & Tents camp and us “Young Un’s” are now part of the committee helping with the planning of the calendar for next year. We can even get through most of the ‘business’ (meeting) and know what’s going on!

I’m so not what you would think of as a WI member – I’m not the model housewife, I buy packet cake mixes, and my craft skills are still that of a 5-year-old, but do you know, what I fit in.

I fit in because although the WI is known for its craft competitions, baking and of course Jam Making – I like many other members, I love meeting new people, taking part in the activities and of course, the Tea & Tents!

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500+ women camping in the forest  – can only mean one thing. 

Yes two weekends ago it was The unofficial WI camp “Tea & Tents”

For months us young uns of our WI have been planning for our 3 night camping trip to Walesby scout camp with over 500 other members of The Woman’s Institute.

This year Tea & Tents is in its 3rd year and our 2nd year of attending.

Last year we were newbies not only to Tea & Tents but also to the WI. This year we sort of knew what to expect.

We put our names down to volunteer at a slot over the weekend.

We ordered our merchandise.

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And then on the Friday we packed up my VW and off we went.

We arrived not long after 6pm,  the camp opened at 5pm yet there were already loads of camp areas already set up with pretty bunting and lights.

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We finally found a space to park Delilah ( my VW)  And set to putting up our tent and making our area look pretty .

Then we changed into our new T-shirts and grabbed our picnic and headed over to the main marquee to listen to the “camp opening meeting” unfortunately we were only able to listen from outside as it was already full inside.

We sat and listened through the canvas while we ate our picnic.

There were still people arriving as it was turning dark.  A few of us went to help one lady set her tent up as she was on her own and had arrived in the dark with the biggest tent on site I reckon.

Afterwards we headed back to the tent and snuggled down for the evening.

Saturday we got up and after we had made breakfast & had a Cuppa We headed to put or names down for some of the workshops. Unfortunately by the time we arrived our first options were already full up. So me & S decided to go for a facial.

After a late lunch it was time for the market place.

Lots of lovely stalls selling craft packs, homemade items, jams and cakes.

While a couple of our group went to do their volunteer slot I ordered pizza for us all.

We were going to join the camp fire but we just ended up chatting and made a little fire in the BBQ to have our own little bonfire. We even toasted some marshmallows.

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Sunday  morning was my volunteer slot. I was in charge of the photo booth with another lady but it seemed after Saturday night 9.30 was too early for anyone to want their photos took.

When I had finished my slot I rejoined my friends who had brought me over a bacon buttie and we lined up to get our names on a workshop. Myself and H booked onto vintage curtain ring brooches and S & E booked onto square weaving.

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Before our workshops started there was time for a bit of yoga.

In the afternoon we had booked a dip in a hot tub. By the time it was our slot it was quite windy and the hot tub didn’t feel very hot!

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While in there we got talking to one of the *squirrels she was telling us about her own WI in London. She also gave us a bit of inspiration for our position in our own WI.

By the time we got out I was shivering and couldn’t seem to get warm.

Sunday night was the Big Quiz.

We cooked some jacket potatoes warmed some beans and took them up to the quiz.

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We did quite well in the quiz. And we’re quite impressed with ourselves. Especially on the Tv themes round.

There was one theme that hit with all of us. If I just say “In west Philadelphia born and raised on a playground is where I spent most of my days…..” Leave in the comments below if you know what this is. 🙂

A marquee full of women singing was one of the highlights of the weekend!

Monday morning came and I actually forgot it was my birthday! Until I came out of the tent and the E had put some gifts out on my chair. 🙂

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Everyone woke up and we slowly took down our home for the past 3 nights.

We got bitten to hell on camp and there were a couple of things that were a bit rubbish but all in all the camp was amazing. A great time to get to know one another and to meet new friends.

A chance to take part in activities you might not take part in any other time!

We just found out yesterday that the organisers are taking a break in 2017 but the camp will be back in 2018 and I for one am looking forward to doing it all again!

 

It seems I didnt take as many photos as I thought! I must try better next time!

*squirrel – one of the volunteers that help in the running of the event. Making sure the other volunteers know what they are doing and generally making sure the camp is going ok.

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Another Baby?

Lately we, as a family, have been toying with the idea of having another baby.

I have two healthy children who are on a whole happy.

So why would we want another baby?

I had a planned but unwanted C Section – I have never really got over the fact that my children came out of the sunroof so to speak.  They were taken out 4 weeks before the due date according to when they were conceived.  They turned at every scan so chances are they could have turned again had they left them a bit longer.c965e1d0208d83623be8910d06517035

Anyway that’s another blog post!

I never wanted children until I found someone I wanted to make a family with then we wanted a big family.

I would love to have all my grown children round for dinner with their partners.

I love the moment in the film ‘It’s Complicated’ where her children are there and they are all having dinner around the table laughing and generally having a good time!

I would love to have those mornings again bonding with my new baby, (that newborn baby smell, the little noises they make) and generally getting to know each other.

Myself and Hubby are not getting any younger and I think if we don’t try again now it’s going to be too late!

However, in order to get my body and mind free of medication, I stopped (through the doctor’s advice) taking the tablets that I was on for depression.

I have felt myself dip! I’m crying a lot more. My anxiety is off the scale. I’m scared of everything!

I’m not sure trying to get pregnant is the right thing to do!

I think I need to be happy and present within the family I have got rather than trying to extend the family.

I think I need to get my wellbeing in shape.

I love my family and want to do all I can to keep them happy and safe!

I need to learn to accept that things don’t always go as planned.

I am going to concentrate being a better mum, step mum and wife to the family I have.

Although I would rather not be back on the meds I think if it’s what is going to keep me and my family happy then it is the right thing to do!

I have been to the doctor today and talked it through with her and, for now, I’m going to try using St, Johns Wart and she has referred me back for talking therapy.

If we still decide, in the future, that we want to extend our family, then maybe we will look into other options like adoption!

But just for now I’m going to concentrate on working on a better version of myself!

 

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Confessions from a Mum on the Edge

I don’t know how to break it to you but …

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Wait go get a cuppa and a snack…

Done?

Good.

Here goes…..

I am so lost and overwhelmed by this parenting / housewifing job that I have sought the help of a Mummy Life Coach.

Yep there I said it.

My home is not a home – it’s a cluttered mess of kids’ toys, shoes, clothes, bits of paper, and just generally too much stuff.

I’m so unorganized I never manage to finish my to do list.

I shout! A lot!

I have no inner peace no matter how many “Me time” moments I give myself (maybe I give my self too many and that’s why I never finish anything).

Anyway, I digress

As I said, I am having help from a Mummy Life Coach who says she can turn me from shouty mum to calm mum. A better version of myself!

I have only had her a week but my first task was to write down my perfect average day.

So a general school run day but one that’s the best it can be. How it makes me feel. What I’ve done to make it so.

I have to tell you that I started writing it today and ended up stressed that I couldn’t fit everything I wanted to into my day.

I think I’ve slumped that far into my rut that this it is going to be hard to get out!

After 4 attempts and 2 emails to my Coach I managed it!

The perfect average day task is meant to empower you and get you excited that in a years’ time it will be your perfect average day for real. You are meant to be able to feel the feelings of a years’ time and be able to transport yourself there almost.

I think most of us are guilty of carving out a groove in our life and then getting stuck in it. So much so even if we are not loving life, we either wouldn’t know were to start or fear what would happen if we made a change.

However, I have got to get out of my groove otherwise something is going to snap! Be that my sanity (already teetering on the edge) or my husband’s (again on the edge)!

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So my average day includes

  • Getting up early
  • Being organized
  • Making time for yoga, swimming, running
  • Preparing healthy meals and snacks
  • Spending more time as a family
  • Getting us all to pitch in with household chores
  • Spending time with friends
  • Working from home, earning a small income from my job

This sounds like a simple plan when written down – it’s just finding out which bits I need to tackle in order to get there.

What would be in you average day?

Would you seek guidance from a coach?

Have you already? Can you give me any advice?

 

See you all soon

Nina

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