World Mental Health Day – My Story

Hi All,

Today Is World Mental Health day, Each year The world health organisation recognises World Mental health Day

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This year the theme is psychological first aid!

You can read more about it over on the mental health foundation website!

To help with Mental health issues we are encouraged to talk more openly about mental health so today around the country hundreds of people will be gathering in a fundraising initiative called Tea & Talk.

So today I am welcoming you for a cuppa with me as I tell you my mental health story!

If you would like to know more about mental health day or Tea & Talk head on over to the mental health foundation website!

If you enjoyed this cuppa & Chat Please make a donation here

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Fitness Friday – Getting on track before 40 &  ECG results 


Last week I told you that i was off for a 24 hour ECG Monitor. The results came back that my heart is normal. I just have extra beats which most people have but don’t feel. As my anxity is high lately I am feeling more. 
The doctor did say it’s most common in athletes. – they do say stress & anxiety can put your body through the strains athletes go through. Without the benifits of being fit! 
she said if I was fitter it may decrease and I may see an improvement with my anxiety as excersize is a good way to beat some mental issues. 
Now. I’ve just been reading about getting fit and staying in shape when your 40. 
When we turn 40 our ability to lose weight decreases I turned 36 in July so the wrong side of my 30’s. 
I need to change my fitness levels and body shape before I turn 40 because if I’m finding it hard now chances are it will be even harder once 40 hits!  
So the kids are back at school next week and here is my plan! 
Some of the mums walk one morning a week. – I’m hopeing I can join them. 


Three times a week – I’m going to head to the gym for 30 mins in the gym and 30 mins in the pool. 

Meals will be planned so that takeouts and prossesd foods are limited. 

Get rid of my phone at bed time & in a morning. – Morning scrolling through social media can be replaced with yoga. 


Nighttime blogging can be replaced with meditation & sleep. – using phones before sleep affect the quality of sleep making you still feel tired when you wake. It decreases melatonin that our brain needs to sleep well & boost wellbeing. 

I’ll check back with you all in two weeks and let you know how I get on. 

Screen Free Weekends- Crochet

Hi all,

I mentioned in my Fitness Friday post that  I missed last weeks post due as I was lone parenting and it I had a busy week, I do have a plan for scheduling so that i don’t miss weeks when “life happens”

Anyway back to Screen Free

Last weekend as hubby was away i still struggled with screen free all day – In fact the kids woke up and I let them have their tablets for a while!

However I have cut down screen time throughout the week –

I have replaced nighttime googling & Instagram surfing with a new hobby

I bought some wool and and a crochet hook and I tried my hand at crochet again!

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I’m not great at it and the bit I’ve done as a wonky edge – But my plan is to have a blanket for winter

Though it has stopped me from picking up my phone as much at night!

So back to the weekend! 

After we had put down the tablets we headed out for breakfast! then off to grandmas and did a bit of blackberrying.

Sunday Daddy was home and we just had a lazy day.

Check out next week to see how we get on with the next Screen Free Weekend!

What did you get up  to over the weekend? have you wrote a Screen Free Post on your blog

Link up down below and be sure to use the #screenfreeweekends

So linky rules
Each Monday evening I will post how we were screen free over the weekend

  • Linky will be live from Monday evening to Friday morning.
  • Posts should be your own work.
  • Only one post per person please.
  • It’s only fair that we share the linky love by commenting on at least two other posts.
  • I will feature one blogger each week in my post so unplug those cables & let’s have some screen free time.

Share your posts on Twitter or Instagram using the #screenfreeweekends @readyforacuppa I will try to comment & retweet each one

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Fitness Friday.Walking, Stress & ECG

Good morning, Its time for fitness Friday again.

I missed last week due to lone parenting and school holidays – But fear not I am back this week and I now have a plan for scheduling. ( That will be another blog post)

So where am I at?

  • Well the past 2 week I’m still only averaging around 5000 steps
  • I Have been swimming twice a week.
  • I have managed more outdoor time!

Today I have the heart monitor I mentioned in the last Fitness Friday post

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Funnily enough the flutters have actually calmed down a lot now – So i think it was probably the anxiety!

I am trying to make changes to my day to cut down the stress I feel and generally make me healthier.

Goals for the future! 

  • Still trying for the 10,000 steps
  • Drink more water
  • Take vitamins each day
  • Swim three times a week
  • Yoga at least 4 times a week
  • Night time meditation instead of TV

When I get back the results from this ECG (monitor) I will be creating a better plan for my physical fitness – I may try and get back into the couch to 5k. Running is so good for the feel good chemical – Dopamine and Serotonin.

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See you next week when I have my results back.

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Fitness Friday – Feeling Fluttery

Good Evening,

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I last weeks post I said i was going to put up a vlog on how I got on with my yoga – This is a big fat fail.

I did have 3 days of doing my yoga in a morning but time just runs away with me.

We’ve had a few upsets this week a couple I’ve vlogged about (Video Due Monday)

And a couple I’ve not really spoke about.

Anyway

Fitness wise here is where I am –

I have been swimming 3 time this past week and done on average 6000 steps

I have also started with a better diet. cutting out a lot of rubbish.

Apart from a little niggle I’m having with flutters in my chest that I think are part of my anxiety I feel a little healthier as I write this! (I have been to drs and I’m awaiting a 24 ecg monitor)

Next weeks goals

Average of 8000 steps through the week

Swim three times

Get outside more!

This weekly blog is not only for my physical fitness but my mental fitness to!

So I have also started listing 3 things I am grateful for each day in a journal. I have only started a  couple of days a go but I want to keep this up next week also!

Sorry I haven’t really words of inspiration for you this week but I hope it might help you to know that we all have off days!

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Me Time for Mum- #AD 

In July I attended Tescos Christmas in July  event. While I was there I called in to Focus PR’s event too. At the event were a number of different company’s some I’ve heard of before some I had never heard of but liked the sound of them. one of these latter was a company called Conscious Water.

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Conscious water make water enhancers these are to be enjoyed while you take a moment. They don’t claim to have healing powers it’s all about the flavour and the experience.

Give yourself 5 mindful minutes

Pick the aspiration you need, take a few deal breaths then Grab a 250ml glass of water and  simply fold the sachet in half over the glass and the essence will drop out of the bottom. Give it a stir and enjoy the moment.

There are several essences to choose from

  • Serenity – ”

    God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

    Reinhold Niebuhr

  • Sweet Dreams –

    “All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them”

    Walt Disney

  • Clarity –

    “A lack of clarity could put the brakes on any journey to success”

    Steve Maraboli

  • Happiness –

    “Happiness is not something ready-made it comes from your own
    actions”.

    The Dalai Lama

  • Love – ”

    Where there is love there is life”

    Mahatma Gandhi

  • Rejuvenation –

    “We must always change, renew, & rejuvenate ourselves, otherwise we harden”

    Goethe

Each one is blended with flower essences that are specifically chosen to help create the above aspiration.

The aspirations are safe for children to drink to as the only contain natural ingredients.  When I spoke to one of the  team at the event they also told me that they are soon to bring out a range specifically for children. To help them concentrate on study, sleep better and more.

Conscious Water can be bought directly from the company for further information please head on over to their site for more information.

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This post is not a sponsored post however I did receive the sample pack free as a taster from the event!

All the opinions are my own

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How do I explain death to my 4 year olds?

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In the four years my children have been alive a number special people in our lives have died. The Twins had been a little young to know whats happening. When I lost my Nan my twins were only two. They will have noticed she wasn’t here anymore however they don’t really remember her! 

A couple of days ago however the next door neighbour of my nan (who I have known since they both moved there about 30 years ago ) died – She had been having a few health issues over the past year but had such a positive outlook! She was in her 90s and so much more agile than my nan was at 90!

As I came off the phone to my mum I realised I was crying and J & M were looking at me!

I tried to explain but I don’t think they understood!

I tried the well “Mrs G” won’t be here anymore she has gone to be with my nanny somewhere in the stars!

Can we see her they asked! – I told them that we wouldn’t be able to see her again now.

I didn’t know what to say –  I think many of us are inept at dealing with death. I was talking to someone the other day who said I the olden days death was just what happened. In fact in times of poverty it was probably a bit of a relief as sick couldn’t work so therefore were a burden!  These times we as family dealt with the funeral ourselves.

Nowadays that job is usually  given to a funeral home so we only ever talk  about death through closed doors!

I am one of those inept people – I don’t deal with death very well and therefore am a little scared of my own mortality or selfishly the mortality of people around me (what will I feel when there gone?)

So with all this in mind I want to do the right thing by my two. I don’t want them to grow up with this fear that I have and that my dad had that death is something to fear so much so that it interferes with living!

Googling how to talk to a preschooler about death I came up with many don’ts

  • Don’t tell them that the person has gone to sleep – This may cause the child to not want to go to sleep
  • Don’t tell them the person has gone away – Leaving the child may then be an issue as they may think you have “gone away”
  • Don’t tell them the person has been so good that jesus wanted them – The child might start playing up so they don’t get chosen
  • Don’t tell the child the person is happy now they have gone – the child might question why the person is so happy when everyone around them is sad!

So what do I say instead?

What do I say to my 4 year olds about where this person who was a part of our lives is now?

How do explain death to them?

If you have any words of wisdom please leave in the comments below or message me on facebook.

Thanks

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Fitness Friday – So close!

If you follow my instagram feed and My Fitness Pal account  you will see that from Monday I started logging my food & tracking my steps –

I started the week quite terrible – It was my birthday on Monday so my food included chocolate cake! and as we had been camping over the weekend my watch was flat so I couldn’t track my steps either!

However as the week progresses I have done a lot better. I got up to 8500 steps on Wednesday – This was walking J & M to holiday club I also managed to fit a swimming session in too!

This morning I was hopeful that I could have hit the 10000 with a holiday club run and some free time for a walk around the village – Unfortunately M was poorly in the night and having a day off from Holiday club so you will have to check out my instagram feed later to see how I got on!

I thought I could also fit in a swim today but again with M off I couldn’t take her with me! Also My time of the month just arrived and she’s makes herself well-known so I’m just going to end up having a lazy day I think!

Updates

I’ve rejoined the Spa! – The motivation to swim there is so much better I feel so much more relaxed there!

Next step is to get up earlier and get a yoga sequence in before J & M get up. Yoga makes me feel so much better for the day ahead.

This past week knowing that you are following my progress has been my motivation, so this week my plan is a “a week of yoga” vlog on my YouTube channel.

The video will hopefully go live at the same time as next weeks Fitness Friday post.

To see how I get on don’t forget to subscribe to my Channel, Follow my Instagram feed & Follow me here on my blog!

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Another Baby?

Lately we, as a family, have been toying with the idea of having another baby.

I have two healthy children who are on a whole happy.

So why would we want another baby?

I had a planned but unwanted C Section – I have never really got over the fact that my children came out of the sunroof so to speak.  They were taken out 4 weeks before the due date according to when they were conceived.  They turned at every scan so chances are they could have turned again had they left them a bit longer.c965e1d0208d83623be8910d06517035

Anyway that’s another blog post!

I never wanted children until I found someone I wanted to make a family with then we wanted a big family.

I would love to have all my grown children round for dinner with their partners.

I love the moment in the film ‘It’s Complicated’ where her children are there and they are all having dinner around the table laughing and generally having a good time!

I would love to have those mornings again bonding with my new baby, (that newborn baby smell, the little noises they make) and generally getting to know each other.

Myself and Hubby are not getting any younger and I think if we don’t try again now it’s going to be too late!

However, in order to get my body and mind free of medication, I stopped (through the doctor’s advice) taking the tablets that I was on for depression.

I have felt myself dip! I’m crying a lot more. My anxiety is off the scale. I’m scared of everything!

I’m not sure trying to get pregnant is the right thing to do!

I think I need to be happy and present within the family I have got rather than trying to extend the family.

I think I need to get my wellbeing in shape.

I love my family and want to do all I can to keep them happy and safe!

I need to learn to accept that things don’t always go as planned.

I am going to concentrate being a better mum, step mum and wife to the family I have.

Although I would rather not be back on the meds I think if it’s what is going to keep me and my family happy then it is the right thing to do!

I have been to the doctor today and talked it through with her and, for now, I’m going to try using St, Johns Wart and she has referred me back for talking therapy.

If we still decide, in the future, that we want to extend our family, then maybe we will look into other options like adoption!

But just for now I’m going to concentrate on working on a better version of myself!

 

This post first appeared on www.meetothermums.com

 

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Fitness Friday – 10,000 Steps & 4 pints of water?

Good Morning everyone.

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I need to up the ante regarding my fitness and well-being.

If you saw Mays post ‘They weren’t all toned size 6′ you will know that I joined the Bannatynes Gym.

However I’m not really feeling motivated at Bannatynes to be honest.

I think I am going to go back to the spa after this month has finished as it just feel better there, the pool is brighter and the atmosphere is more calming!

I never got around to joining the zumba class – I was ill the first week then my anxiety was on high alert so I never got around to going!

With my emotional health in mind the spa is a better choice for me!

So to improve my emotional health & fitness I have gone back to basics – I have donned the I Watch and started tracking my steps.

We are supposed to be taking around 10,000 steps per day to be classed as active. For the past week I have only managed 5,000 per day So this is where I think I need to start.

Also water plays a vital part of our well-being we should be drinking 8 x 8oz glasses of water per day converted to pints that’s around 4 pints I think I’m drinking half of that.

I have one pint before bed and half a pint on waking. then about another pint through the day. So not bad but I do drink a lot of tea too!

As soon as I get back from my camping weekend with the girls I really need to put some exercise back into my everyday.

I’m going to be tracking my steps on my iwatch and adding yoga to my mornings again!

I will be doing a weekly post called Fitness friday here I will update you with anything I’m doing fitness wise as well as posting how many steps I’ve managed to do each day

along with my weekly post I will be on Instagram each evening with my daily steps and water consumption.  Follow me here to see how I do & If you fancy joining in post your steps with the hashtag #rfacsteps I will repost as many as I can!

I would also like to get back into watching what I eat I have joined my fitness pal Hopefully I will manage to track what I eat!

If you would like to follow me on here just click the picture.

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Please leave me some words of encouragement below.

Don’t forget to follow me on Instagram to check up on my daily steps.

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