Loneliness as a parent. Making Friends  

You know that feeling of being lonely in a room full of people.

Yeh that.

I am currently sat in soft play with my children happily off making friends.

Don’t get me wrong I’ve a great group of friends. But wouldn’t it be nice to have the inhabitation’s of a child again. And go off exploring & making friends.

I’m mostly fine taking my children to places on my own,  But sometimes just sometimes I need another adult human to talk to.

Someone who isn’t going to demand juice and need me to take them to the toilet.

My friends have helped me through some tough times and Im hope I have them!

I’m sure there will be more tough times in our lives too but at least we will have each other for support.

 

How do mummies / Daddies make friends?

Well i met mine through a Sure Start centre – I joined every session especially the craft sessions.

One craft group turned more into a kind of therapy session I ended up bonding with a couple of other mummies who are now two of my best friends!

We eventually introduced our husbands who also now are good friends.

We often spend time together as a group!

  • Look up baby/ toddler groups

Get out there you could try a story session at a library, a baby group at your local church or local toddler coffee mornings –

When you have found them

  • Get out there.

Your not going to meet anyone sat at home! You need to take those first steps. I know how hard it is to get out of the door with a little one, I have twins but it helped me to have somewhere to go.

Well done you have taken your first step.

  • Strike up a conversation or join one thats already happening if its not too personal and is relevant.

So you get there and there are several parents milling around you put your little one down to play and grab your cuppa, there are a couple of ladies talking about how their little one woke them,   did you have a bad night too?  Could you offer advise or just be a listening ear?

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  • School age children? – Check out school coffee mornings  Again you need to strike up a conversation What about asking a little more about the summer fair, The school trip, anything that is relevant to you and your child!

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  • Volunteer – Often there are openings for volunteers on Parent Fundraising Groups so while the children are at school you could even run the coffee mornings!
  • There are sites out there that you can connect with other parents. In forums and chat rooms – Please remember safety first when connecting with people online Here are a couple I know about :

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I hope you have found these tips useful.

Now what are you waiting for?

Get out there it could be one of the best things you do!

 

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Thanks Gals for supporting me through some tough times!

Love ya! x

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4 thoughts on “Loneliness as a parent. Making Friends  

    • Nina Spencer says:

      I went to my sure Start as. Pregnant mum so developed a relationship with the staff that gave me the confidence to attend other things. I owe a lot to my sure start centre. X – my extra bit of advise is give it a couple or few visits. X

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  1. The Mum Project says:

    Ah yes, it’s so different making friends as an adult. After college, it’s mostly work friends and people I met at bars, etc. But now, my close friends I’ve met at hypnobirthing classes and baby sensory or Mummy and Baby cinema! So funny, the places you meet other Moms! I’ve never heard of Sure Start but I will check it out. : ) I’m also on Meet Other Mums although I haven’t met up with anyone yet! Thanks for sharing with #StayClassy!

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    • Nina Spencer says:

      Thanks for your reply mum project. yes I know what you mean about pre babies the friends i made were work friends we are still friends just at different stages in life! xx #stayclassy

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